Your Chore personality
quiz results are in!
You are…
delegator
Here are your 3 simple steps you* can take to getting more teamwork at home
* There might be a loud voice yelling “BUT FIX MY PARTNER!!!” Your partner is definitely a huge part of the problem at home, but getting them to change is a whole different thing (and if you are interested in this, stay tuned, because I have the couples’ program for you).
For now, I want to give you tools that make you feel more in control, that help you to make real changes at home, and that empower you.
Step 1: Know the Characteristics of Your Chore Personality
You are a whiz at managing lists, tasks, and plans.
You know and track all the things: what birthdays are coming up, and what that person would want as a present.
You like feeling in control of your environment.
You keep track of all the things and tell your partner how to help.
You're skilled at planning for unforeseen events.
This strong organizational ability is a super skill of yours. Sometimes you might tend to take on all of the household organization because you feel scared when balls are dropped, people are disappointed, or things don't go as planned. As a result, you've found yourself in the role of CEO of the house, with your partner as an employee that you delegate to. Over time, you've grown resentful that you have to keep track of the heavy mental load and your partner just has to do what you tell them to do.
we all have things to work on we don’t like to acknowledge.
(mine is not slamming cabinets)
Read on to put your chore personality to work to get teamwork at home!
Step 2: A quick step to take towards lasting change
There is one step you can take right now to feel more like a team with your partner. "Assign" an entire category of chores to your partner, from planning to completion.
For example, if you have kids, your partner could be in charge of doctor's visits. Remember, the goal is to have them be in charge of the entire category. In other words, they are in charge of keeping track of the well visits, scheduling them, taking the kids (or asking for help getting them there), and scheduling sick visits and taking them (or asking for help).
Another example would be to have your partner be in charge of laundry, which means noticing when it needs to be washed, washing and drying it (and ironing it, depending on your agreement), and putting it away.
Step 3: Communication tips for the delegator
Remember, your goal is to step out of the manager role for the household. Checking on if and how your partner has done their tasks puts you in a “managing” role (not sexy). Instead, empower your partner to own the entire task by NOT following up.
Instead of: “Hey, have you called the teacher yet today to schedule the conference?”
Try this: “Hey, I have some extra time today, so if you need any help with anything let me know.”
what else can you do?
Buy the “divy up chores like a boss (without being the boss)” ebook
Go beyond these first steps and put these exciting next steps into place even if you aren’t sure your partner will be on board.
Implement changes in your house that will work for you based on your unique Chore Personality!
Learn my 4 part system to get rid of the heavy mental load
Create a Clarity List that gives you a snapshot of who is doing what so we can decide the best next step for you
This downloadable workbook is $57 in my shop...
But you can get a copy NOW for only $17!
You might be thinking...
“I don’t wanna make a list of who is doing what. I already do too much and it will make me feel worse than I do already.”
I know you’re suffering and unhappy with how things currently are. While you might be scared that looking at it on paper will make you feel worse, the truth is that it actually will make you feel more in control. When you work through this workbook you’ll also have my voice with you giving you tips on next steps.
I’ve learned how to feel like my partner has my back and we’re a team. I want to help others find the same.
It is possible. This is a huge and important step on your journey.
Hi, I’m Sarah.
Ten years ago I found myself exhausted by the list of things that I needed to do around the house. I was constantly reminding my husband what he needed to do, and managing the to-do list for both of us.
This lead me to feel resentful and irritated. But maybe worse, I started to feel like my husband was more like a child than a partner. (Obviously this is a pretty big romance killer.)
Since then I’ve been studying this problem, attending therapy, and learning why we end up in these cycles. My husband and I are unstuck, feel closer than ever, and have a fair division of household responsibilities.
That’s why I’m here.
I want to help others experience this feeling of connectedness and teamwork. And that’s why I created this ebook for you!
Does any of this sound familiar?
You’re angry you don’t get enough help with the household chores but don’t know how to fix it
Romance and sex are next to impossible because you don’t feel seen, valued or supported by your partner
You feel like you do the bulk of the household work and you’re resentful of it
You are exhausted by the mental load of the remembering and noticing and keeping track of everything
If you caught yourself nodding along, this workbook is for you
Inside this Workbook, you’ll:
Use your Chore Personality to make changes: I go in depth to help you understand your personal style and how to use that information with tailor-made steps to bring you more teamwork at home
Identify how much you are doing: Did you know that womxn tend to UNDERESTIMATE what they do in the household while men OVERESTIMATE it? For us to really fight those internalized biases we need real, cold data. My Clarity List will make it clear what’s actually on your plate and what your partner does.
Learn how to offload the mental load: stop being the only one doing the noticing, planning, and organizing! I’ll teach you how to use my 4 Step system to hand over some of the mental load!